Do you go from day to day just going through routine longing for weekend? Wouldn't rather feel that your actions are worthwhile? Wouldn't like to wake up looking forward to your day, whatever it holds, work, play, house work? One of the by-products of great coaching is the pushing out of that hollow feeling that comes from living life on auto-pilot.
2. Decision Making
We make decision based on our programming. Like a computer we run on a series of "if>then" lines of programming; if I do this, then this will happen. But what if our basic programming is wrong? What if we were told that 1+1=3? We are all where we are in life because of our decision making processes, what we eat, where we work, where we live. Coaching assists in identifying faulty programming in order to make better decisions.
Results come from better decision making but making decisions alone does not get results. A plan of action using your unique set of skills is required. It was Albert Einstein who said that if you tell a fish that it is no good at climbing a tree, it will go through life thinking it is a failure. Coaching assists you in finding your skills and finding your environment to optimise results.
When you are up to your ass in alligators, it's hard to remember that your initial goal was to drain the swamp. Whether in life or in business there are many well intentioned voices, whether colleagues or the media, telling you what you want, what you need, who you should be, etc. That's great and each has their own value but at the end of the day, you are the decision maker and your voice should be the one that you are listening to. If you are honest with yourself, are you leading the life you want or the one your think you should be living?
Above, I said your voice should be the one that is most trusted but that takes confidence. Confidence in your decision making abilities and even if a decision appears to be 'wrong', that you can course-correct and find yourself back on track. Oprah Winfrey and Donald Trump are confident that they could be dropped anywhere in the world and they would make something of themselves. Donald Trump, US$75,000,000 in debt doesn't crumble or wonder "Why me?", he bounces back because he believes in himself, he is "The Donald!".
6. Tolerate Less. Create Boundaries
As a consequence of confidence we can now start to tolerate less of what we don't want in our lives. How often do we let this slide in our daily lives? We suppress what we truly feel in case it upsets others around us and we might get cast out of the herd. So how would it feel to communicate in an assertive but non-confrontational manner? How much more energy would you have to do the things you like? Define the boundaries you wish to operate in.